It’s A Match – A Bandas Adoption Update

We found him!

Our sitter had come over for the day, so that I could have a few hours to myself and I’d already accomplished so much! Canceled my gym membership (working out in our garage is so much free-er!), attempted to mail my mom a package (the USPS was almost able to help me with this!), and stopped to put air in my tires (they were already all at the exact right PSI, I just had a broken sensor!)

But just as I sat down at my favorite local coffee shop and peeled open my laptop – the phone rang.

“This is going to sound completely out of the blue…” the conversation with one of our social workers began. I froze, anticipating the phrase that came next to be something along the lines of, “Have you considered that you and your husband might not be cut out to parent any additional children?”

But she began to tell me about a little boy.

He lives in the Philippines and he will be two in September. For those of you who’ve been following our adoption story, you know that we were not planning on adopting from the Philippines. Not even close. In fact, we weren’t even planning on adopting from that continent. But things with our adoption had slowed to a snail’s pace (and we hadn’t yet been matched with a child) and just yesterday we were hit with another bizarre hurdle to overcome. I was frustrated and tired.

Honestly, I was pissed.

But then the phone rang. An email was sent. And there he was. A little boy with huge eyes, pudgy little fingers and a crooked smile. Waiting for us. I instantly imagined him as the third Bandas Boy in our family and cried in public, all alone at my computer.

And again several weeks later, when we got our first video of the little guy. You see, it’s been three months since we first heard the news and for those three months, we’ve been praying that the right doors would open, and the powers that be in the Philippines would choose our family to be his family.

Last week they did.

On Thursday morning I learned about my son, who lives halfway around the world, via an excited voicemail from our social worker. We’d been pre-approved for placement!

So now all that’s left to do is a million things. But who cares? Because we found him! And we can do all the things. Sure they will be hard and frustrating and annoying and most of them will probably have to be done over at least twice because #government, but who cares?

Because we found him.


  1. So happy you found him ❤️

  2. KELLY!!! I’m crying for you!!
    Congrats! And I’m so happy for your family!!!
    That boy may or may not be your favorite ever!!! And I’m not just saying that because I’m Filipino. Okay, yes I am.

    • Thank you SOOO much!! And to take you up on your other offer, YES we would like to learn some Filipino cuss words 😉

  3. Best news of the day! I’m thrilled for you friend.

  4. Oh kelly!! I’m so excited and happy for you!!

  5. Omg I’m balling my eyes out! ??? congrats I’m so excited for you. Such an exciting piece of news. That little boy is so incredibly lucky to be a part of your family.

  6. Sweet!!! Congrats to you all!!!

  7. Happy dance and fighting back happy tears for you!!! This is such a beautiful blessing!!!
    Also, Start learning how to make Filipino food because it’s the!!!!

  8. Shelley Saveriano August 21, 2017 at 8:34 am

    Dear Bandas Family, I’ve thought about your wonderful news many times since your post. In a world that feels upside down you remind us of goodness, living peacefully and thinking of others. You remind me of the saying ” be the change you want to see in the world”. You are opening your heart and home, imagine if more people followed suit? This little boy is blessed, as is your family! Thank you for sharing the journey!!

    • Oh Shelley, that is SO unbelievably kind. We so appreciate your support, kind words and encouragement. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts <3

  9. Oh girl! I am almost ugly crying at my desk at work! How amazing! I’m immediately putting you on our family prayer list and praying that everything goes smoothly and you get to see your baby soon.

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