How To Be A Racist

I recently noticed that I’ve been experiencing an age of “de facto” living. Meaning that I have become accustomed to accepting that things must be empirically so, simply because that is how we, as a society, are taught to think.


People who smoke Marijuana are criminals.


Anyone who’s anyone, goes to college.


People who are poor, stay poor.


It’s not like I say any of these things out loud. That would be offensive! But I’ve thought them. And I think them. And I let the thoughts fester. And become part of my ideology – but it’s all purely by accident!


Because I’m a good person!

Because I’m a really good person.


I’d never do anything to proliferate the grossly negative stereotypes that exist around people who make up different cultural backgrounds. I’d never tell a racist joke at my workplace or refuse to provide a service to a person who didn’t share my religious beliefs. No way. I’d never do that.


I’m not a bigot.


But I have passively nodded my head when I’ve heard people speaking in prejudicial language. I’ve quietly chuckled at a joke made at the expense of another. And I’ve silently scrolled right on past an example of outright racism.


And that is just as damaging. I don’t care how “good” of a person you are.


So we can all continue living a “de facto” existence, where we accept everything at face value: That people in positions of authority get to do whatever they want, just because of who they are. That maintaining the status quo is more important than maintaining civil rights. And that there’s nothing we can do to stop any of it.


Or we can call bullshit.


Because we are all good people. No one deserves to be treated like any less.


Get involved. Register to vote. Speak up.


First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—

Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—

Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

Martin Niemöller


  1. Speak up we must!! And not to prove who we’re not but out of genuine concern for our diverse group pf brothers and sisters who ALL make up this nation of ours.

  2. I love your honesty and insight on this. Thanks for using your voice to remind us of the dangers of passively sitting by.

  3. We all have a voice and in order to be heard we need to use it in a constructive way. If we don’t fight for ourselves, who will?

  4. Love this! We must stand up for those around us.

  5. Great post and so timely. It is so sad to see people who truly think that their race is the best, the one, the only. The world is full of wonderful differences and no one is more important than anyone else.

  6. Thank you for writing it. I am glad that all of us who have a voice on social media are using it to stand up for each other. Like Kim said, no one is more important than anyone else. We all have equal right and should be treated alike. Especially in 2017!!!!


    • YES! Thank you Tanvi. ESPECIALLY in 2017. Jeez. You’d think we’d have learned how to love properly by now <3

  7. Thank you for speaking out about this! I’ve seen many people with a large platform that just ignore what’s going on in the world and act like they live in a perfect little bubble. I used to be super active in speaking out about these injustices, but had to put it on the back burner to improve my mental health. It’s just nice to see other people are out there fighting the good fight! 🙂

    • Thank you Channing! We each have our time to speak out and when some have to step back for personal reasons, others can take their turn to step up. We can work together to fight the good fight 😉

  8. i hate to be cliche and cheesy but serious why cant we all just get along. why cant people also just be happy with themselves, their fellow neighbor and just be nice to others?!?!?!

    • I totally understand!? I think it’s cliche because it’s something we ALL feel and ALL want to shout from the mountaintops right now. A little love goes a LOOOOONG way <3

  9. I LOVE THIS SO MUCH. I think about this a lot as a mom of white males. I hope they always speak up for those who are being silenced.

  10. It just makes me so sad the state of our country these days. I am saddened but the only thing I can think of doing is teaching my kids during all this about how to treat people. Even when people in power act as if its okay. It is not. I think as a parent I am responsible for raising kids that will one day make this a better place.

    • YES!! I think this is EXACTLY what we should all be focusing on right now. As moms, we have the power to shape the next generation and that is HUGE. Thank you for reading Leah 🙂

  11. I really liked your post. I have to agree staying silent while racist, or borderline jokes etc is bad, but I get where your coming from. Most of us don’t want to rock the boat because we think it doesn’t effect us. I love the quote you added to this. This same quote hangs in my grandparents house as a reminder we’re all in life together. Thanks you so much for sharing. I’m trying to be more accountable for what I hear as well.

    • Thank you for your thoughtful response Angela. That quote always rocks me whenever I read it. Such an important reminder that we ALL need each other <3

  12. Spread love, be kind, and speak up about the injustices of this world. <3 Thank you for this wonderful post!

  13. I love this post. We are destroying one another by staying silent and not speaking up for others. One of the things that I am emphasizing at home with my kiddos is to stand up for those who are getting bullied, if not, they too are part of the problem. When did we start picking up our phones to record instead of stepping in to help. Human life is precious- there is so much beauty in diversity!

  14. Great post! It’s so easy to get accustomed to hearing people talking like this and thinking nothing of it. But truthfully we need to change the way we think and speak! Thanks for sharing!


    • So true. We become desensitized living in a digital age when we get inundated with reports similar to this one, but we cannot let our hearts be hardened!

  15. you’re an amazing inspiration, mama

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