A Bandas Adoption Update – One Year Later

Today marks one year. One year since we began our adoption journey. One year since we said “Yes.” to trading in our sensible family sedan for a even sensible-r family SUV. One year since we decided to do a thing that would require more patience and relinquishing of control that we’ve experienced since we started our family six years ago.

Many of you have kindly asked for updates and I could not be more thankful for your interest, prayers and overt voyeurism. (No judgement here. We all do it!) So here is the update you’ve all been waiting for…

There is no update.

Well, not one that I’m comfortable sharing on the world wide web anyway. There have been some developments, some changes if you will, but nothing is set in stone yet. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from this whole “let’s adopt a person” adventure, it’s don’t count your chickens (or in this case, children) before they hatch.

So we’re still sitting here in this place. Knowing there is a kiddo out there, who belongs in our family. A  third little Bandas boy (…or girl! You thought I slipped there for a second, didn’t you!) waiting to join our motley crew. And in this waiting we are trying to be thankful and prayerful and quite frankly, not let ourselves get too attached to something that might not be.

It could be kind of a crummy spot. But here in this waiting, there is so much to learn. So may ways for our family to grow closer and stronger. So many ways for me to lose my temper and fly off the handle and then let my calm and sensible husband bring me back down to earth, because what’s one more background check if it means getting one step closer to bringing our little guy (or girl!) home?

It could be a few more months or I could refresh my email inbox right…NOW and find out that our lives have been forever changed. It’s exciting, but at the same time, totally destroying my current data plan. And I’m 100% certain that my iPhone is very tired of telling me that my inbox was “updated just now”.

So if next time you see me, I’m compulsively checking my phone, now you’ll know why. I’m just waiting for the email that will change our lives forever.

And possibly checking Instagram.


  1. I can’t even imagine all the emotions one can go through when it comes to adoption. It must be a whole ‘nother level when it comes to international adoption. Just the fact that you are going through this process and you’re willing to jump through hoops for another life makes me so happy. I pray that you’ll receive an answer soon and that your family continues to grow in the meantime. 🙂

    • Thank you Virjinia! We so appreciate your prayers. We’re just asking God to open the doors that need to be opened and even close a few, if he has to <3

  2. Sending you and your family major love as you continue your journey toward adoption. The waiting game is certainly challenging (I’m an infertile, pregnant momma who can empathize in that regard). Fingers crossed and big prayers that your newest addition comes soon!

    • You are so kind Lindsay! Yes, I’m sure that we have MUCH in common in this department! Praying for your journey as well and I can’t wait to follow along with you 🙂

  3. This has to be so hard and excruciatingly slow! Wishing the best for you and I hope you find your little Bandas soon!

    • Thank you so much Jackie! It does feel paaaainfully slow sometimes, but we’re just praying for all the right doors to open at the right time <3

  4. It would be so hard for me to be patiently waiting ! I’m excited to follow along with your adoption story and see how it all ends! I have always wanted to adopt a child❤️

  5. My friends just brought home their daughter from Thailand and it took 5 years. I hope it’s quicker for you guys! Whenever it is it’ll be perfect timing.

  6. Oh, Kelly! Can’t even imagine all your heart must be going through while you wait. Sending you lots of love, and I’ll keep right on stalking you for happy news. 😉 xo

  7. Your blog post came across my facebook from a friend of a friend. As someone who is deep in the trenches of i ternational adoption too, you have my deepest empathy. And if you would like to talk, comiserate, vent, whatever…..feel free! I’d love to make some connections with peopme in the same boat we’re in!

    • Oh Holly, I am SO glad we connected! This can be a lonely journey sometimes and it’s so nice to hear from someone who is going through the same thing 🙂 I’d love to connect on FB!

  8. I applaud you for doing this. We looked into it before we were pregnant and I had such a hard time with all the uncertainty.

    • It’s definitely difficult, but it’s a great exercise in letting go of control (for me). Thank you so much for your encouragement!

  9. brittany ashmore July 14, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    Girl that is so amazing that you have a calling to adopt! I was adopted at birth and thank the Lord everyday! Can’t wait for the day you get to!

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